Moving with Kids: How to Make the Transition Smooth and Fun
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Moving with Kids: How to Make the Transition Smooth and Fun

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Dr. Sarah Carter

September 25, 20248 min read

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Moving is a big change for everyone in the family, but it can be especially challenging for children who thrive on routine and familiarity. The good news is that with thoughtful preparation and a positive attitude, you can turn a potentially stressful experience into an exciting family adventure.

1. Communicate Openly and Early

  • Break the News Together: As soon as the move is certain, sit down as a family to talk about it. This shows a united front and gives children a sense of security.
  • Be Positive but Realistic: Frame the move as a new adventure, but also acknowledge that it's okay to feel sad about leaving friends and familiar places behind. Validate their feelings, whatever they may be.
  • Answer Their Questions: Kids will have a lot of questions. Be prepared to answer them honestly and patiently. If you don't know an answer, it's okay to say so and find out together.

2. Involve Them in the Process

Giving children a sense of control can dramatically reduce their anxiety. Involve them in age-appropriate ways:

  • House Hunting: Show them pictures or videos of potential new homes. Let them weigh in on which one they like best.
  • Packing: Let younger children decorate their own moving boxes. Older children can be responsible for packing their own rooms (with some supervision, of course).
  • Planning Their New Room: Allow them to dream about their new space. Let them pick out a new paint color or bedding. This gives them something to look forward to.

3. Say a Proper Goodbye

Saying goodbye is a crucial step in gaining closure. Don't rush this part of the process.

  • Plan a Goodbye Party: Host a get-together with friends, family, and neighbors.
  • Create a Memory Book: Help your child create a scrapbook or photo album with pictures of their friends, home, and favorite places.
  • Visit Favorite Spots: In the weeks leading up to the move, make a point to visit your family's favorite parks, restaurants, and other local spots one last time.

4. Make Moving Day an Adventure

  • Pack a "First Night" Box: For each child, pack a special box with their favorite toys, books, bedding, and pajamas. This should be the last box on the truck and the first one off.
  • Give Them a Job: Make them the "official door opener" or the "snack distributor." Having a role can make them feel important and involved.
  • Stay Patient: Moving day is stressful. Try to stay calm and patient, as your children will pick up on your mood.

5. Settling into the New Home

  • Set Up Their Rooms First: Before you tackle the kitchen or living room, set up your children's bedrooms. Having a familiar and comfortable space will help them feel secure.
  • Stick to Routines: As much as possible, stick to your regular routines for meals and bedtime. This provides a sense of normalcy in a new environment.
  • Explore Together: Make exploring your new neighborhood a family activity. Find the local parks, the library, and the best ice cream shop.

6. Helping Them Make New Friends

  • Get Involved: Sign your children up for local sports teams, clubs, or classes based on their interests.
  • Meet the Neighbors: Take a walk around the block and introduce yourselves. If you see other families with children, make an effort to connect.
  • Host a Housewarming: Once you're settled, a casual open house is a great way to meet your new neighbors.

Conclusion

Moving with children requires an extra layer of care and attention, but it's also an opportunity to build resilience and create lasting family memories. By communicating openly, involving them in the process, and making it fun, you can help your children not just survive the move, but thrive in their new home.


What are your best tips for moving with kids? Share your advice in the comments below!

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About Dr. Sarah Carter

A child psychologist and parenting expert, Dr. Carter specializes in helping families navigate major life transitions. She offers practical strategies for supporting children's emotional well-being during a move.